Planning and marital affairs
In earlier times, this side of the family, genus, families were treated not only seriously, but regarded as an extremely important issue from all perspectives: the historical – who intermarry are vitally and forever, and to the genetic – which would be great as a viable and strong posterity, children, grandchildren, great-grandchildren, and economically – as will firmly stand on their feet heirs, etc.
At the same time our ancestors were well aware of the value and psychology. Young family created for decades, was to test feelings young men and women who marry. It was the will of the parents bless the marriage and to fix its church wedding ceremony, but had a value of love and other feelings between husband and wife, their psychological compatibility, ability to get along not by marriage duties (such as to comply with contract clauses), but by mutual love and location .
Much depended on both parents pairs, or more precisely from families who were going to intermarry. After all, in the future, the children had to be – more and more with each year of life together – like their fathers and mothers.
That is why the creation of a young family it was for the surrounding society is not the union of two young people to live together, and the connection – the first! – Two kinds. It is therefore very important in a society attached “Domostroy” (a list of recommended reading!) As a system of rules of the maintenance of the national family life and lifestyle. In particular there was the activity of “procuresses” social function of which was to correct selection of the families of the bride and groom, matching each other on the basic “parameters”: for hereditary professions, in character, temperament, according to cultural background and way of life of families (see. for example, pieces of NA Ostrovsky).
As a rule, the role played procuresses mature, psychological observation, experienced women who intuitively accumulated information about the “market” and the peculiarities of the families in the area, which grow brides and grooms.
At the same time there was the institution of “betrothal” or premarital agreement, when the parents of the two families agreed to marry their children “in advance” – betrothed to them, the children could be 5 and 10 years, and their future to some extent already been planned as a husband and wife when they reach the age of marriage.
Benefits of family planning consisted in the fact that both sets of parents on both sides, like each other, pre-fastened and tested their relationship, and children were brought up properly, knowing that reliable advance to prepare continuation of the species, and not rely on chance meeting their children with his (her) betrothed (narrowing) of god knows what family and what kind-tribe.
The role of parents, as well as secular and religious institutions of family planning in the Soviet times deliberately discredit to eliminate the mechanisms of selection of “elite class” – nobles, merchants, industrialists, landowners. Maintaining the working and peasant dynasties, it was thought, could go and spontaneously.
As a result of the creation of families in Russia was made dependent on a chance meeting and dating young people has increased dramatically the number of divorces, single-parent families, the birth rate has declined, it fell culture traditions of family education.
Today, instead of “procuresses” (not to be confused with the newspapers, print ads dating services for poor people, blind searches for his “mate”) are a family of selection service to help today’s parents having few children in advance to look for “matching” of the family of potential brides and grooms for their children.
Therefore, in this section, the chronicler can record the wishes and requirements, which – in terms of parents – must meet the family, with which it would be desirable overture “for the future” and to prepare the future of family planning of their child.
Of course, feelings and desires of our children decide definitively, but reasonable wishes and demands of the parents to the “quality” of the family and the future of Swat Swat, which will become related it is better to consider and advise the children. There may be requests, for example, the level of parents’ education, profession – family humanitarians or “techies”, nationality, place of residence, etc.
Particular attention should be paid to the quality of health of the family of the future bride and groom, as today’s young usually do not have the culture to think in advance.
In the absence of family planning traditions marital affairs can be recommended to collect in this chapter chronicles a kind of “information bank” for future families – “candidates” in the twinning, which brought the boys (or girls) that are suitable for the age of your children.
Your wishes can be grouped within the divisions:
- quality family as his father’s health, mother, children (lack of serious hereditary physical and mental illness);
- level of education, spiritual culture of the family;
- profession of parents and, therefore, they belong to a certain social and professional segment of the population (the workers, intellectuals, workers of culture, science, trade, service sector, etc.);
- property level, material well-being, family consistency (there are families that contribute to the possibility of the marriage of their children sizes and types of dowry, the presence of house, car);
- nationality (or ethnic composition) family;
- availability and quality of housing, registration, etc. Of course, this section is meaningful only if the normal relationship between parents and children.