About 50 percent of postpartum women fall into a state when you want to get away from it all, hiding in some cave and did not get out of there. At this time, there is no desire to eat, to work, to communicate with people, and sometimes you do not want to live at all.
That’s all – postpartum depression. A condition that usually occurs in the first week after birth and can last 3-4 months.
In fact, these feelings begin to visit another pregnant woman in the third trimester. She clearly felt changes in their body and in their psyche. She already knows exactly what will soon be one of the family member who takes an important place in her life. And take it happens oh how difficult. Women who build their lives to pregnancy in a certain way, simply can not immediately realize how it will change after the birth of a baby. And the expected mismatch and reality generate mixed feelings.
In addition to the psychological complexities of self-acceptance in a new role, a young mother plagued by mood dictated by restructuring its hormonal levels. It would seem that the baby takes so much energy that some depression simply do not have time, but not a bit of it! Women who are accustomed to pay a lot of attention, forced for some time to forget about yourself, why their mood deteriorates more and more.
Psychologist Maria Pugacheva, author of Casual-psy – Psychology of everyday life does not recommend closed in its shell:
“One of the factors that lead to postpartum depression, it is” the emergence of a third. “During pregnancy, this third, as such, not yet, so the waiting period the kid seems that life after birth will be interesting, emotionally rich, some new and exciting. In fact, the newborn takes a lot of energy and emotion, but so far does nothing in return, sometimes getting no joy, and a burden. Start experience that now it will always be, for life. Gradually accumulated feeling frazzled , exhaustion, emptiness and the reluctance to do anything further.
In order not to aggravate the situation, try to get their portion of emotions from someone from the family. Reach her husband to care for a child, the parents ask for help, do not hesitate to invite friends. Do not go entirely to the child, do not cut yourself off from others, but on the contrary, try to save as many contacts, especially with the people you love. And then the sensation of “no life” you almost touch it. “
At some point, when the child comes to crying, and parents can not do anything to alleviate his suffering, women lose heart. They think that they can not do anything and can not, they do not normally get to take care of the baby, and in general, “I a bad mother!”. In this case, Maria Pugacheva advises remember that at all something happens for the first time: “Do not worry, and do not criticize yourself Do not hesitate to involve older relatives, ask them for help, let them explain, help, teach Ask to.. to the care of the crumbs joined husband: look for information, understood in the care of babies, and maybe even surpassed you baby calming art Distribute duties, not to burden all by yourself, and then you will feel part of the team that has. its strengths and weaknesses and it will just be a natural process:. because the child – is a general member of the family, not your individual test of strength. “
As another reason for postpartum depression Maria Pugacheva highlights changes in appearance: “As a rule, after giving birth to a period of a woman’s body is changing for the worse, sexual need is reduced, there are limitations in the intimate life of a result, she no longer feel it is a woman. . – beautiful, attractive, desirable, exciting men Plus, the baby takes so much time that the does not leave any minute Therefore, there is also some advice: By all means, try to give yourself and your appearance due attention to not forget about yourself… One of the most important needs of women -. feel its attraction Plus, dissatisfaction with the mother is eventually transferred to the child, and he too will be experiencing unpleasant emotions. “
I have this insidious disease is not passed, and the first months of the life of my baby, I had mixed feelings of tenderness and happiness, and self-pity. The reason I saw generations that have passed not by the script, which I expected, and great difficulties with breastfeeding. Personally I felt better when I left the house, leaving the kid with his dad, and set off to meet friends or take a pleasant procedure, such as a massage or salon facial skin care. Shifting attention to the infinite satisfaction of the needs of the baby is, to some extent, the miraculous effect.